I feel like this is one of the debates that has raged on for all mankind. It’s up there with chicken or the egg, vanilla or chocolate, Backstreet Boys or N*SYNC.
All my semi-adult life I’ve used the term “hook up” to describe anything in the realm of making out, heavy petting- anything more than a friendly peck. My peers, it seems, are divided, and often use this term when referring to sex. Call me conventional, but if you have sex with someone I’m going to straight out say you fucked them. I’m not going to use cute terms – “got together” “made it” “HOOKED UP”. If someone stuck their penis in or around your vagina, you’ve had sex. I’m tired of differentiating between the two, and asking friends which translation they adhere to, and constantly forgetting which friends use which definition.
“I totally hooked up with Josh last night.”
“Well, yeah- you guys were all over each other at the bar.”
“No, afterwards. We, like, HOOKED UP.”
“Oh. … So you banged him?”
Why do we have to be so coy about our sexual lives? If we’re willing to do the deed, why aren’t we willing to be candid and honest about it? Just because you used cute words doesn’t make it any less real. I think using “hooking up” as a pseudonym for sex is yet another example of our generation skating over cold, hard life. Forgive me for being preachy or perhaps too philosophical, but I think the world would be a much better place for all of us if we agreed on a grown up tagline for having sex. Like having sex.
And if we cured world hunger, and fixed the economy, blah blah bullshit- that wouldn’t hurt either.